This is an excerpt from Mastering the Universe & Optimum Health – Volume I

What fulfills you? How do you recharge your energy? What relaxes you? What makes you play and feel like a kid again?

What rest is to the body, rejuvenations are to your Self and spirit.

Rejuvenations are breaks from the daily routine that keep the mind, body, and Self fresh and full of new thoughts and ideas.

All work and no play leads to many unhealthy things, but one of the most crucial is mental and spiritual stagnation. The best way to develop new ideas and recharge is to step away from the grind for a moment and expand the mind with something refreshing (this may come in the form of complete relaxation and “nothingness.”)

It is helpful to create a list of rejuvenations that one can relate to and use on a daily basis. These personal rejuvenations can be thought of as outlets in a wall; they are to be plugged into on a weekly basis in order to recharge one’s batteries and keep new and fresh ideas flourishing. Not to mention, they give an energy boost that acts like natural caffeine.

List anything that works for you; yoga, hiking, reading personal development books, vacations, meditating,   charity work, massages, quality time with friends or family, etc.

Have fun with this on a separate piece of paper; draw, use colors, etc.

My Rejuvenation List  looks like this…

How to Balance Your Journeys and Destinations

“It is good to have an end to journey toward; but it is the journey that matters, in the end.”

— Ursula K. LeGuin

 So here it is; a secret, simple and super effective state of mind that helps you go about your daily activities with purpose, passion and patience. The mind-set you are about to learn will allow you to relax at the right time, and be totally focused when needed. This is one of the most important Yin and Yang’s to master in one’s life;

~ The balanced ebb and flow between focused-purpose and relaxed-rejuvenation. ~

            If you can be in one of those states at all times, while balancing your time between them, you will be damn happy, productive and healthy.

I am not one to waste time; in fact wasting time is one of the few things that really gets on my nerves. So you know what I’ve done? I’ve figured out how to go through life and not waste ANY time at all, BOOYAH! Super productiveness and happiness at its best.

For all you ADHD and visual people, skip to the bottom of this article to see the big picture.

            My friends used to tell me “just wait till you have kids and a family and we’ll see how productive and relaxed you are then.” Ha ha, well, I have a beautiful family now, including a 10 year old, and NOTHING has changed in that arena. I am as productive as ever, and better yet, I am happier than ever.

How do I do it? Well, simple really; I make sure that whatever I’m doing has purpose, no matter what, and that I balance these purposes between journeys and destinations. Even if I’m stuck in traffic or waiting in line somewhere, I find some way to connect with myself, relax or just be in the moment and observe what life has to offer.

Why have purpose all the time? Because the other option is to sit in traffic or wait in line and be totally pissed off or frustrated and miss the subtle lessons that life is constantly providing for me. No thanks. Been there. Done that. I’ve learned and am ready to move on to constant self-improvement and awareness. And oh yeah, sometimes the purpose is to not have any purpose or destination whatsoever.

So why is purpose so important?? How about this?

Purpose Diligence, enthusiasm, passion, excellence, focus, courage, commitment, confidence, determination, perseverance, valor…~This means that without purpose, the above are virtually impossible to obtain~ Cowardice, confusion, lethargy, apathy, fear, low self-esteem, depression, loneliness…

For those of you who don’t like the structured sound of this and think it will interfere with your ability to be a free spirit, don’t worry, that is me too and this will only help you be freer than ever.

The purpose (I just can’t stop saying that word!) of this philosophy is to help you live in the moment and give you new and fresh perspectives on your daily activities that may otherwise seem mundane and annoying. For instance, what if you changed your outlook on grocery shopping and renamed it “gathering things to nurture myself and my family?” It’s the same damn thing, but now it has a purpose; to nurture.

Do you think hunters and gatherers ever thought “crap, I have to go out and hunt again, this sucks”? No, I doubt they did. They were masters of being in the moment and alternating between totally focused and totally relaxed.

Seems a little silly maybe, but this kind of perceptual shift can alter your state of being from “ugh, going shopping again” to being in the moment of 1) gratitude for being able to afford to go shopping, 2) enjoying the convenience to get basically whatever you need without having to kill it, milk it or harvest it and 3) feeling the love of nurturing your family and yourself. Can you imagine how differently you would be walking around the store? One is peaceful and the other is…well, not so peaceful.

Here is the most powerful way I use this philosophy…

Imagine that you are going for a walk with your loved one(s) after dinner, the weather is perfect, love is in the air, yet your mind is elsewhere on a deadline at work or a phone call you need to make or a person who annoyed you earlier or whatever it is, you just aren’t in the moment. This walk now becomes a wasted moment that you can’t ever get back. You can create new ones, but you can’t get this one back. Think for a second how many of those moments you have had….and we have all had.

This is where balancing your purposes helps you to create magic in your life. If you had set aside that time for an evening walk with the purpose of a rejuvenating journey, i.e. being in the moment with your loved one(s), then you would have received the magic of the moment, which could be a look, a feel, a sound, or the simple feeling of love and peace. These subtle little feelings are what feed your spirit and recharge every one of the trillions of cells in your physical body. Think of them as energetic nutrition.

Once this simple walk/journey with your loved one(s) is over, then you can go back to handling any business/destination that needs tending. And when you are doing that, you are in the moment of that task. And then you move on to the next thing, and the next, all the while being focused on what you are doing because you gave it purpose.

Sound exhausting? Quite the contrary, actually. Being in the moment, no matter what that moment is, allows the brain to be in a very efficient mode and focused on one thing at a time. This is much more beneficial to the body than trying to do or think about many things at once.

With a little practice you will master setting aside time for journeys and destinations while constantly transitioning from focused to relaxed throughout the entire day and week.

Below is how I balance my daily activities….Oh wait, I forgot one thing, the X-FACTOR. If you are not on a journey or do not have a destination, then you are wasting time. This is known as being stuck in the WASTELAND. Common traps to get caught are; T.V., not having a purpose, computers, video games, drugs, partying, etc.

This is not to say that these things are all bad. What it means is that if your goal is to improve yourself, yet you spend time watching T.V. instead of exercising, cooking nutritious meals, stretching, writing down goals, etc., then you are not balanced between purpose/destination and rejuvenation/journey. Once you are balanced, then you can enjoy such things, ideally with your friends and family so that they are “quality” rejuvenation times and not avoidance or wasted times.

Remember, if something is not improving your well being, it is taking away from it.

There is no neutrality in evolution.

           IMPORTANT NOTE: perfection is not the goal here, enjoying the journey and learning from it is.

 So here is what helps me balance my journeys and destinations. I encourage you to make a similar chart (keep the “Energies” the same and create your own “My’s”) so your vision and purpose are strong.


Energies of the Journey 

  • Spiritual/purpose
  • Rejuvenating/nurturing
  • In the moment
  • Nothingness
  • What am I enjoying?
  • Virtues to focus on; love, hope, gratitude, purity, forgiveness and prudence.

My Journey Components  

  • Family and friends
  • Contemplating
  • Nutrition/eating
  • Stretching/yoga/meditation
  • Sleep
  • Being in service to others
  • Reading

*All of these are focused on rejuvenating and nurturing me by being in the moment.


Energies of the Destination

  • Mental/purpose/ego
  • Takes energy
  • In the purpose
  • Results
  • What is my purpose?
  • Virtues to focus on; purpose, temperance, humility and wonder.

My Destination Components


  • Work/commute/emails – (focused on fulfilling my professional mission)
  • Binge eating – (rewards)
  • Shopping/cleaning – (focused on peace of mind and gratitude)
  • Working out – (focused on health, strength and confidence)
  • Computer – (focused on research and marketing)
  • Research/writing/studying – (focused on fulfilling my professional mission)


Energies of the Wasteland

  • Out of balance
  • Depression
  • No value
  • Negativity
  • Avoidance
  • Ignorance
  • Fear

My Wasteland Components

(things to beware of)

  • Poor sleeping patterns
  • Internet surfing
  • Bad eating habits
  • The 7 deadly sins
  • Dwelling on the past
  • Worrying about the future
  • Comparing myself to others
  • Alcohol abuse
  • Judging others
  • Anything else that takes me away from my journey and destinations.

Slow Dance Poem

This poem was written by a terminally ill young girl in a New York Hospital.



Have you ever 

On a merry-go-round?

Or listened to 

Slapping on the ground?

Ever followed a 
butterfly’s erratic flight?

Or gazed at the sun into the 

You better slow down.

dance so 

Time is short.

The music 

Do you run through each day

On the 

When you ask How are you?

Do you hear 

When the day is done

Do you lie 
in your 

With the next hundred chores 

Running through 
your head?

You’d better 
slow down

Don’t dance so 

Time is 

The music won’t 

Ever told your 

We’ll do it 

And in your 

Not see 

Ever lost 

Let a good 
friendship die 

Cause you 
never had time 

To call 
and say,’Hi’

better slow down.

Don’t dance 
so fast.

is short.

The music won’t 

When you run 
so fast to get somewhere

miss half the fun of getting 

When you worry and hurry 
through your 

It is like an unopened 


Life is not a 

Do take it 

Hear the 

Before the song is 


Thank You Martin Luther King Jr.


Thank you MLK. As one of my main inspirations, your purpose, passion and message still move me today, especially when I ….

give a presentation…

feel like I’m not doing my best…

need guidance…

need hope…

feel like there just aren’t enough people who care…

feel like I am all alone on my mission…

want to quit and give up…

need to focus…

am afraid of blazing a trail…

think I have it rough…

forget about PEACE……….

THANK YOU Martin Luther King Jr… still INSPIRE ME.


I cannot take credit for this beautiful information, and I unfortunately cannot give anyone credit because it was sent to me via an email forward. Nonetheless, I loved it and feel compelled to share it with you.

Enjoy =)



A lecturer when explaining stress management to an audience,
Raised a glass of water and asked
“How heavy is this glass of water?”

Answers called out ranged from 20g to 500g.

The lecturer replied, “The absolute weight doesn’t matter.
It depends on how long you try to hold it.

If I hold it for a minute, that’s not a problem.

If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my right arm.

If I hold it for a day, you’ll have to call an ambulance.

In each case, it’s the same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes.”

He continued,

“And that’s the way it is with stress management.

If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later,

As the burden becomes increasingly heavy,

We won’t be able to carry on. ”

“As with the glass of water,

You have to put it down for a while and rest before holding it again.

When we’re refreshed, we can carry on with the burden.”

“So, before you return home tonight, put the burden of work down.

Don’t carry it home.

You can pick it up tomorrow.

Whatever burdens you’re carrying now,

Let them down for a moment if you can.”

So, my friend, Put down anything that may be a burden to you right now.

Don’t pick it up again until after you’ve rested a while.


Here are some great ways of dealing with the burdens of life:

* Accept that some days you’re the pigeon,
And some days you’re the statue.

* Always keep your words soft and sweet,
Just in case you have to eat them.

* Always read stuff that will make you look good
If you die in the middle of it. [LOL]

* Drive carefully. It’s not only cars that can be
Recalled by their maker.

* If you can’t be kind, at least have the decency to be vague..

* It may be that your sole purpose in life is simply be kind to others.

* You may be only one person in the world,
But you may also be the world to one person.

* We could learn a lot from crayons… Some are sharp, some are pretty and some are dull. Some have weird names, and all are different colours, but they all have to live in the same box.

*A truly happy person is one who can enjoy the scenery on a detour.

Cherokee Wisdom


One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people.  He said, “My son, the battle is between two wolves inside us all.

“One is Evil – It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.

“The other is God
 – It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.”

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: “Which wolf wins?”
The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”

The Nike Women’s Marathon – October 17, 2010

My Nike Women’s Marathon…
experience was so AWESOME that I just had to tell you about it. For those who don’t know, I help coach the South Bay Team In Training team this year, and this past Sunday, October 17th, the Nike Women’s full and half marathons took place. They always sell out with at least 20,000 people who run the race and 1000’s of supporters along the sides of the road cheering their heads off in the cool, damp and often drizzling weather. 
These supporters are the heart and soul of this race.  Along with the scenery, the course we ran was a tourist’s dream route in seeing everything San Francisco has to offer in buildings, bridges, parks and crazy amazing people everywhere.

The common theme for this race is having a cause. Whether it was raising money and increasing awareness for cancer or having a goal time to achieve, everyone seemed to be focused on finishing no matter what got in their way.

What people gain from overcoming adversity to finish this race is the ability to endure tough times, doubts and struggles. These attributes are the same ones needed in life to battle through this economy, health struggles and anything else that will require personal growth.

This race reminded me that when great people come together, hope can be actualized. Nike has raised over $150 million for leukemia with just this SF women’s run since it started, and that money goes on to change so many lives for the better. During the race you will see these people along the side lines cheering YOU on. They love you for what you are doing and support the runners who support them. It is like a community you won’t find anywhere else.

This brings me back to the reason I wanted to share my experience with you, the cause. Nooo, not their cause or my cause, YOUR cause. Life is so much richer when we have a cause. Whether its beating cancer, coaching, donating time to charities, finding something that encourages you to be in line with your cause will help keep you going when times are tough. So please, do yourself a huge favor and start looking for what fulfills you beyond your imagination if you aren’t already. It could be simply being a spectator at the next local race and cheering on all the participants.

Here are my top 3 moments of the Nike Women’s Half Marathon;

1. Watching the woman I ran with break down into tears as she crossed the finish line and realized that all of her hard work had paid off and she was finished!

2. The orange slices handed out in the middle of the race as we went up a hill. YUM. It was the aroma that picked everyone up and gave us energy to continue even stronger. BTW, check out my monthly special for free essential orange oil to help pick you up at work!

3. Witnessing how many good people we have here in the Bay Area and all over our country. We have some of the best people on the planet right here in the Bay Area, all willing to donate their time to help others.

Please let me know if you would like help finding your cause (I have a lot of great connections in the Bay Area) or would like to train for the Nike Women’s Half Marathon next year; I would love to help you.

Receiving all of the love and genuine “red carpet” treatment.

Even more motivation to finish the race: Silver Tiffany necklaces which served as the medals handed out by local firemen donned in tuxedos.

Metaphoric Lessons from Surfing

If you look close enough, you can learn from every situation.

These are some of the lessons I have learned from surfing.


# 1 – if you are not confident, then you will most likely wipe out and crash

# 2 – if you are not assertive, then you will be stuck with the leftovers that the assertive people didnt want, i.e. crappy waves & opportunities

# 3 – confidence leads to assertiveness

# 4 – practice practice practice and you will gain confidence, and therefore will be naturally assertive, and you will be SUCCESSFUL in whatever you choose to do